{"id":1100,"date":"2016-03-22T07:16:31","date_gmt":"2016-03-22T15:16:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/internetsafety.trendmicro.com\/?p=1100"},"modified":"2016-03-22T07:16:31","modified_gmt":"2016-03-22T15:16:31","slug":"you-asked-what-do-i-do-if-someone-posts-my-kids-picture-without-asking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.trendmicro.com\/internet-safety\/blog\/you-asked-what-do-i-do-if-someone-posts-my-kids-picture-without-asking\/","title":{"rendered":"You Asked: What do I do if someone posts my kids&#8217; picture without asking?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-932\" src=\"\/internet-safety\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/06\/LYNETTE-OWENS.png\" alt=\"LYNETTE-OWENS\" width=\"100\" height=\"109\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>You Asked, We Answered<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>by Lynette Owens<\/p>\n<p>As part of our work around the world, our team visits hundreds of schools and communities to peak with parents, kids and teachers about what it means to be good digital citizens. \u00a0We talk to kids of all ages about what it means to be great online and we learn what they\u2019re seeing and doing on the Internet; we speak with parents, teachers, and communities about the challenges and opportunities of raising kids in an online world.\u00a0 And while we share a lot of our knowledge and advice, we also learn a lot along the way.<\/p>\n<p>Many times we are asked great questions by students, parents, and teachers.\u00a0 We feel some of them are worth sharing for the benefit of all.\u00a0 We\u2019ll post these as frequently as we can in our &#8220;You Asked, We Answered&#8221; series. \u00a0We welcome your questions here, too!<\/p>\n<p>This week\u2019s question is:<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u201cSomeone posted a picture on Facebook that had my kids in it, but never asked me. I don\u2019t want my kids\u2019 pictures out there in public and I don\u2019t want people to post things about them without asking first. \u00a0What should I do?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>While we have rights to privacy, what we each feel comfortable with sharing about ourselves is a deeply personal issue.\u00a0 The rules of etiquette for sharing online aren\u2019t written anywhere, and each of us has a different boundary on what is or isn&#8217;t ok to share. We&#8217;re figuring out the norms for sharing as we go.<\/p>\n<p>Most people, regardless of age, do want some control over what is shared about them or their families. Here are a few things you can do that we find helpful, and that parents and students have told us that they do:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>If you feel comfortable enough, ask the person to take it down and let them know you\u2019re reasons.<\/li>\n<li>If the social network you use has the ability for people to tag your name in a photo they post, choose the setting that alerts you so you know when a picture is going up that is associated with you. You can decline that your name be tagged with that photo.\u00a0 This will prevent it from showing up in your own string of posts (but doesn\u2019t prevent them from sharing it on theirs).<\/li>\n<li>If someone you don\u2019t know has posted it, you can report them to the social network, website, or service to request that it be taken down.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The best way to manage your privacy is to let people know how you feel about it.\u00a0 Have conversations as early and as often with your family members (extended family, too!) and friends.\u00a0 No need to make a big speech, just let people know one by one what you do or don\u2019t prefer to share.<\/p>\n<p>We encourage kids to have these conversations among their friends, too.\u00a0 And parents should set good examples, too.\u00a0 When you take pictures of others, ask if it\u2019s ok to post or to even just text it to other people, and try to do this within earshot of any kids around you whenever you can.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em>Lynette Owens is the Founder and Global Director of Trend Micro\u2019s Internet Safety for Kids and Families program.\u00a0 With 20+ years in the tech industry, Lynette speaks and blogs regularly on how to help kids become great digital citizens.\u00a0 She works with communities and 1:1 school districts across the U.S. and around the world to support digital literacy and citizenship education.\u00a0 She is a board member of the National Association of Media Literacy Education and SPARK Kindness, and serves on the advisory boards of INHOPE and U.S. Safer Internet Day. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Follow her on Twitter @lynettetowens<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As we visit schools and communities around the world, we are asked great questions that we feel are worth sharing for the benefit of all.  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